In studying the life of David one cannot help to notice his great leadership traits. For thirteen years he was a fugitive on the run. For the next seven he solidified his power over all of Israel. During the next thirteen he expanded the kingdom and made Israel a leader in the strip of land that controlled international trade and commerce.
From the beginning after Saul’s death, David did not go anywhere the Lord did not command him. He sought God’s direction and trusted that God had things well in hand. That is why he did not go and take Jerusalem, but made Hebron his capital. During this time, David did not complain about waiting longer to assume his kingship, but patiently waited upon the Lord.
We have seen the birth of the “Purpose Driven” philosophy to life. I am not discrediting Bro. Rick Warren. It is great that we understand our purpose in life, but to fulfill that purpose, we must be God led and guided. I believe my fellow pastor would agree with this. David knew he was to be king over all of Israel and could have raced towards that purpose without waiting for God’s direction. I believe that would have been disastrous. Sometimes in pursuit of our “purpose” we may follow the pragmatic approach. “What ever it takes” seems to be a popular statement today. Priorities become distorted and we seek only the “good feelings” thinking we are fulfilling our purpose, but in reality this may not be where God is guiding us.
Many young couples start out this way. They believe they are to build a home and what do they think a home is? They just left mom and dad’s place with the three bedrooms, two baths, formal living room, dinning room, bedrooms, plasma hi-def T. V. and an array of other stuff. They feel they need to have these things so with little money, they go into debt. A couple of years later and a couple of kids, money is really tight, they are in dead end jobs, the marriage is having complications and they have turned their backs on God and His purpose for them. Two things happened, they had the wrong vision for what a home is, and they did not discipline their desires by submitting them to God’s leadership.
When we truly surrender ourselves to Christ, we give up the right to be happy according to worldly standards. Being a disciple means being disciplined and doing without the pleasures of the world. I like what Proverbs 27:7 says,
“A satisfied soul loathes the honeycomb, but to a hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet.”
When we discipline ourselves, we don’t make the mistake of following the world and never being satisfied.
If short term happiness and pleasure are my measuring rods in making decisions, I will end up with a bag of chips that is full of air and hardly any chips. I will not be satisfied.
David’s son Solomon tried it all and ended up with this statement:
Eccl 12:1
1 Remember now your Creator in the days of your youth, before the difficult days come, and the years draw near when you say, "I have no pleasure in them":
We will and can always find our pleasure in the Lord.
David in his role as king was disciplined to wait for the Lord and ultimately became king twenty years after Samuel anointed him. But, In this time of triumph during his public life, David was laying the ground work for failure in his private family life.
David was marrying wives and collecting concubines to satisfy his lustful desires. Kings were warned against having multiple wives (Deut 17:16-17), but David engaged in the practice of other kings who surrounded him. It is recorded that between the ages of 30 and 37 David had twenty sons and one daughter from his marriages. How can one man provide the leadership for all these children? As we find out, one son raped his sister and another brother killed him for the rape. What did David do? All scripture says is that he became angry.
Another occasion, David is not with his army and is taking a stroll out on his balcony. In the distance he sees a young beautiful woman taking a bath and commands her to be brought to him. She is married, but that didn’t matter. It is said that absolute power corrupts absolutely. In David’s case, this is true because he tried to cover up his rape by killing Bathsheba’s husband. All of this because David could not discipline his passion for women earlier in his life.
What was the result of David’s lack of discipline concerning his lust for women, he died with his kingdom firmly in place, but his family life was in shambles.
When we lust for the pleasures of the world and do not submit our passions to Christ, others will ultimately be hurt. Absalom, Adonijah, David’s firstborn from Bathsheba, all dead, and a daughter raped because of David’s lack of discipline with himself and his family.
When parents fail to discipline their private lives in accordance to God’s word, submitting themselves to a growing relationship with him that includes, Church attendance, Church service, and being transformed into His image, they will ultimately fail as parents and their children will be lost unless God intervenes in their lives without the parents leadership.
May we all be careful of our private passions. If they are not submitted to Godly discipline they will ultimately reveal themselves publicly.
May God bless you!